Love, Marriage and Race? Assignment #5

       While our country keeps changing and adapting to try to treat everyone equal, there are still some scars that slow the process of finding balance and opportunity in this country. African American men have the most contact with the judicial system, low education background while black women just give up on the idea to have a black partner.  It disappoints me that the past is still somehow affecting black children, teenagers and adults in way that it has ben untold and unfair for the last twenty years.

            Bethea does not mention how environment surrounds the black community. A combination of pride, anger, resentment and hate is still hidden in the memories of the ones that once look down on the black people. These emotions ignore values that black people were raised by. They transfer negative vibes generation through generation. Instead of becoming a unit the black community holds the negative thoughts and isolate themselves from society. 

The way Bethea mentions how black females and males experience vulnerability in relationships is connected to the drive to protect themselves from rejection is just crazy. Not loving yourself as an individual is hard enough already with these social media descriptions of what a women and a male should look like. Now using race and employment as a factor to be together with someone is a sad reality. This world is becoming more and more materialistic. Sometimes is just incredible.

Reading what momma couldn’t tell us reflects some of the behaviors that we see in some African American families and just by picturing ir taking their place for a second I can understand why there is so much insecurity in their relationships now. Learning since a very young age that love is temporary is such a traumatic experience. Community and safe spaces should increase in our society because what the white people did in the past was never right.